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Why Orlando is Different

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After the massacre in Orlando, I heard a few sad people say they were glad we have fewer “sodomites” in the world. They were in a tiny majority.

The Lt Gov of Utah came out and apologized to all my brothers and sisters. He admitted that the Republican Party and his own life hasn’t been positive for LGBTs. I’ve put a story from CNN about the Lt Gov below.

I’ve been thinking through all the things that made the post-Orlando massacre different.

Yes, it was so grizzly that we all had to recoil in shock and disgust. But it’s different somehow. Society is different.

I’ve come up with three groups that have changed the landscape.



The old farts have been fighting for years and years. We had Harry Hay, Mattachine, Gay Lib, Stonewall, Queer Nation, and so many other groups. I jumped on board that train with Gay Lib in the 1960s.We had years of good queer/bad queer going on. The drag queens at Stonewall Inn in New York got lots of press for being intransigent. Years before that, the fairies in Mattachine took to the streets wearing suits and ties to show gays aren’t gutter scum.

Queer Nation was always fun. We’d take surveys at local malls in Dallas. One was “at what point did you realize you were straight, and did you ‘come out’ as straight to your family?”

At a minimum, we geezers loosened up the hinges of prejudice.



Every study I ever saw says people aren’t so homophobic when they personally know someone who is LGBT. Period.

When a gay kid lives life without lies, it helps the entire community.

I’m not sure you have to make any formal statement that you like the same plumbing as you carry. Living life is sometimes enough.

I was never in the closet. Maybe I was too stupid to know you are supposed to lie and cheat and feel you are wicked inside. It just didn’t happen, so I never formally ‘came out’ to my parents. They knew, of course. Back in high school in the 1960s in Texas, my high school sweetheart was a black kid. His race was a much bigger deal to my folks than his gender.

The point is that I never lied or hid my attractions. Oh, the stories my parents could tell about Ricky Nelson singing on TV. I’d almost pass out in a swoon.



Wives and daughters don’t always have their hands on society’s rudder, but they really control things.

The clear majority of people who buy my gay romance books are women. They’re great for suggestions and praise. I love it!

What I’ve seen isn’t twisted or icky. It’s a general affinity. When they want a male friend, we’re there with absolutely zero sexual tension. Not to belaborbelabor
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the stereotype, but we’re fun and love pretty.

When daddy-the-macho-guy has an attitude problem, I know that the wife and daughter get busy. I’ve seen it. More than once, I’ve seen it.

I have no idea what’s going on there, but I love to know it’s going on.


We have so much to be thankful for. Yeah, there was an awful tragedy in Florida. There are plenty of ass wipes and douche nozzles in power positions, mainly in the southern parts of the US.

It’s getting so the good guys outnumber the hate’nado bubbas. And I am so grateful for the guts shown by my brothers and sisters… and for the warmth and shade we get from others.




Utah’s second-highest-ranking public official says the Orlando massacre has prompted him to apologize to the LGBT community for his role in perpetuating homophobia.

“As I’ve gotten to know more people from the LGBT community, their love, their kindness, their patience with me — it’s amazing when you try to reach out and get to know and love someone who is different than you — you find out remarkably that we’re really not that different,” Utah Lt. Gov. Spencer Cox told CNN’s Don Lemon Friday.

Cox apologized at a vigil Monday in Salt Lake City a day after xxxx (Sven doesn’t use the killer’s name) xxx killed 49 people in a gay nightclub in Orlando. A video of the speech has gone viral.

“I’m here because yesterday morning, 49 Americans were brutally murdered,” Cox said Monday. “I’m here because those 49 people were gay. I’m here because it shouldn’t matter. But I’m here because it does.”

The Republican told CNN that he regretted not standing up for gay people in his youth.

“I didn’t know they were gay, I just knew they were different,” he said. “Sometimes I would make jokes, say things that weren’t appropriate — not necessarily to them, but about them, on occasion. I certainly didn’t go out of my way to be friends with them. Those are the things I regret the most.”

Lemon asked Cox what he would say to Republicans when it comes to LGBT matters, because, as he put it, “Republicans do not have a good track record when it comes to supporting gay issues.”

“What I would say to them is: Let’s start where we can,” Cox replied. “We have to start looking at each other and caring about each other as individuals and as people.”

Asked about the response he’s received so far, Cox said it’s been “universally” positive.

“There have been nothing but positive comments from the left and the right — just universally,” he said. “That’s the crazy thing, it seems like this is what people have felt, but no one really has said it.”